If You Care To Read The Truth
Dear Denver Yoga Community:
I am very sorry that my article, Queen Bees Who Zap your Ass-ana, may have caused harm. I was only trying to shed light on a problem in the workplace where women sometimes do not treat each other well.
I used an anecdote to illustrate the story about a time where I worked with a woman who behaved a bit like a Queen Bee. This was semi-fictional, based on a true incident in an unidentified studio with an unidentified teacher. It was meant to demonstrate the behavior, not be punitive toward an imaginary teacher. Obviously, I could have written it better, or more clearly, and I apologize for not being a better writer too.
Now there is a woman in Denver who is claiming to be that teacher, and that I have persecuted her. She has embellished the story to say that I called her certain names and that I confronted her face to face, which I did not. Anyone can read the original blog if they care to see what exactly I said about Queen Bees generically, and not necessarily about the fictional teacher in the anecdote.
I thought I was being as careful as I could be to describe a situation of workplace hostility. I have worked in a half-dozen studios with more than 300 teachers, many of whom were former dancers who are very nice people. I am not anti-ballerina! Some of my best friends and teachers were once ballerinas. I have also worked in major corporations where there was even more of this behavior than in yoga studios.
Since this article was published, I have heard from hundreds of people that this very same thing of Queen Bee conduct has happened to them. I have heard from men and women. I have heard from yogis and non-yogis. Nearly 3,000 people have read the article so far, so I hope there was some good to come of it, which was my intention.
Meanwhile, it never occurred to me that someone would claim that this blog is about them to garner sympathy, or that I confronted this person face to face. I only met her briefly many years ago. But now that it has happened, let me say again, I am very sorry to have caused harm, especially to a person who may be already suffering. I hope we can someday separate the discussion of the writer versus the fictional ballerina to focus on women in the workplace, which was my intention all along.
Michelle Berman Marchildon is the Yogi Muse. She is the author of “Finding More on the Mat: How I Grew Better, Wiser and Stronger through Yoga,” and “Theme Weaver: Connect the Power of Inspiration to Teaching Yoga.” She is a Columnist for Elephant Journal and Origin Magazine, and a contributor to Teachasana and My Yoga Online. She is an E-RYT 500 with Yoga Alliance and teaches Hatha Yoga in Denver, Co. You can take her classes on www.yogadownload.com.