Off The Mat

A Tribute to my Mother

Dr. Deborah Weissman-Miller, 1938 – 2017. My beautiful mother. Born in a time when women were expected to marry and stay at home. At 24 she was divorced, a single mother without a college education. Then her father died when I was five, and she found herself, she told me, frighteningly adrift. No college degree.…

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I Was Spanked All the Same

In the news today is my former employer, The Anniston Star, once one of the best small newspapers in the United States. It is making headlines not for breaking news but for being news. It turns out, the publisher had a little problem with spanking the women. Spoiler alert: Inquiring minds want to know if…

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Aging in America is a Sh*t Show

If I’m honest, Desiree Rumbaugh and I probably should not have named our recent book, “Fearless After Fifty.” Everyone told us so. Not one person said, “By all means celebrate aging in America.” Not one person said, “Celebrate maturity in a way that makes it sound like an adventure worth taking, with romance, love, spirit,…

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These May Be the Best of Times

My sons are coming of age in a time when they perceive their country to be burning down. And that may not be a bad thing. I have this aphorism: Nothing really changes. We just know more. A year or so ago we were happy in our content. Children murmured the 31 words of the…

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Peace y’all. What I’m Leaving Behind in 2016

This year had its share of grief, but mostly it was a time when complacency was torn asunder. Everyone on the right and the left, every sex, color and nationality, rich or poor, everyone was jostled out of a long decade’s nap of okayness. Consciousness may be uncomfortable, but it does make things clearer. It…

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How Social Media Has Perpetuated Racism

Years ago I was married to a real loser, and I told him so. I told him early and I told him often. And guess what? He left the conversation to marry another woman. It takes two to have a conversation. And it takes some skill to have the difficult conversations. These days people have…

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There comes a time when we must choose. That is yoga.

This story is an excerpt from “Finding More on the Mat: How I Grew Better, Wiser and Stronger Through Yoga.” It is dedicated to my father, a ‘man of substance,’ who taught me to love all animals, and to protect those who cannot fight for themselves. Choose As humans, we are given the gift of choice. It is…

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When a Shooting leaves us Speechless

I am utterly disgusted by our long national nightmare of gun violence, so I turn to Facebook to seek some comfort or community, and I discover that a friend marked herself as safe. She lives in Orlando. We do not need to know someone in the Orlando community to feel the pain of senseless violence.…

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My Conscious Uncoupling: Poses I’m Letting Go.

After two decades of daily practice and a lifelong love affair with yoga, I am announcing a conscious uncoupling from certain poses. There are no hard feelings. We will maintain a wholeness in our separation that will allow us to co-parent my body, mind and spirit. We will always have mutual respect for each other,…

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Nanny-Gate at the Baldwins

In case you missed it, there’s been more drama for yogi Hilaria Baldwin. After hubby Alec thanked five nannies for their service, it set off a firestorm of media coverage for the young mother. Actually, it wasn’t really a firestorm. Hilaria wrote on Instagram that the haters were picking on her. She also said she doesn’t…

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